Dear Julie
My lover has decided to make me do some weird things for him I am a bit confused. Some of the things he has me do are kneeling, asking him permission for certain things. He even has me ask him to cum during sex. I am worried he is too controlling, but Its very erotic to me. Help
In Need of advice.
Dear In Need,
What your lover is doing is training you to be submissive to him. It is part of the BDSM lifestyle. Now I understand why he is doing this without explaining.
1. Most people think that BDSM is an excuse for abuse! It is not an excuse. By what you have told me he does not seem abusive in any shape or form.
2. I think he wants you to find out what you are capable of learning and I see him starting with small things, and doesn’t seem to be rushing.
3. Kneeling before him is a form of respect, if I can offer some advice here, make sure when you are kneeling before him you are doing it with your head straight but your eyes are cast below his face. Unless he expects eye contact.
4. Asking him permission for certain things is not bad its getting you in the habit to ask for things, some times Dom’s like the idea to cater to there submissive at times, and that can be erotic too. Also for you to ask permission to cumis something I look forward to with my Dom. It is a good way to work up to an orgasm and to build it and when you build and build it is a very rewarding treat. Trust me.
Not last but least, a few pieces of reading that may interest you.
Screw the roses, give me the thorns-Very educational resource to learn about negotiations. Scenario set-ups and how to safely role-play your sexual fantasies.
Then for pleasure reading – Try the Marketplace series – by Laura Antoniou.
Dr. Julie Voss
BDSM Therapist
1-866-513-0615
http://www.hotphonesextherapy.com/julie.html
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Dear Julie,
I have been in a relationship a very unique one to say. I am a 24/7 live in submissive and when I came aboard I found that the Master was actually married to his first slave. I must say I was a bit perturbed however, his only saving grace was that before we met he did mention that there were two sub missives, one was leaving him and was seeking another to take her place.
I gladly went and met the individual and he was nice and very attractive, that is when I found out he was married, but I accepted the terms of the relationship and moved in rather quickly.
Well 6 years later I am unsure of where things are to go now, I find the Master is now almost irritated with me and yet seeks other girls as he wants more “pussy” and wants to breed other women, Yet his wife does not want to have any more children and does not have a motherly instinct in her.
With that I must say I must give her proper credit for not bringing in another into this world and not being a mom.
Master does not like to role-play and yet enjoys role-playgames like Dungeons and Dragons and Vampire the Masquerade and plays well but won’t with either one of his girls. He says he feels silly doing so.
Girl Lost in submission.
Girl,
I must say Congratulations on six years most BDSM relationships I know that have other girls in the same relationship most are doom within 6months to 2 years max.
However your soon to be Master should have been honest with you to begin with however you understood and gladly accepted the terms remember that you are a strong willed woman. I never could be a third wheeler in a relationship.
Your Master wanting a harem is not unheard but is unrealistic in my eyes. As for your Master wanting to seed or breedwomen it sounds as if he is a chauvinist in my eyes. If two pussy’s is enough then he will never be satisfied with what he can get and most women will see that and he will be always looking and eventually become desperate.
For role playing it is heard of from many of my clients they seem to get in a world of fantasy and role-play but say they feel silly doing so with their partner in a sexual way, I try and tell my clients that they need to pretend to be in that fantasy they role-play so if he is into vampire the masquerade then tell him you want to be his victim and reenact that scenario with him in the bedroom, remember set the mood and the scenario and be detailed in the room with props even and see if that helps.
Dr. Julie Voss
Phone-Sex Therapist
1-866-513-0615
http://www.hotphonesextherapy.com/julie.html
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