Dear Julie
My lover has decided to make me do some weird things for him I am a bit confused. Some of the things he has me do are kneeling, asking him permission for certain things. He even has me ask him to cum during sex. I am worried he is too controlling, but Its very erotic to me. Help
In Need of advice.
Dear In Need,
What your lover is doing is training you to be submissive to him. It is part of the BDSM lifestyle. Now I understand why he is doing this without explaining.
1. Most people think that BDSM is an excuse for abuse! It is not an excuse. By what you have told me he does not seem abusive in any shape or form.
2. I think he wants you to find out what you are capable of learning and I see him starting with small things, and doesn’t seem to be rushing.
3. Kneeling before him is a form of respect, if I can offer some advice here, make sure when you are kneeling before him you are doing it with your head straight but your eyes are cast below his face. Unless he expects eye contact.
4. Asking him permission for certain things is not bad its getting you in the habit to ask for things, some times Dom’s like the idea to cater to there submissive at times, and that can be erotic too. Also for you to ask permission to cumis something I look forward to with my Dom. It is a good way to work up to an orgasm and to build it and when you build and build it is a very rewarding treat. Trust me.
Not last but least, a few pieces of reading that may interest you.
Screw the roses, give me the thorns-Very educational resource to learn about negotiations. Scenario set-ups and how to safely role-play your sexual fantasies.
Then for pleasure reading – Try the Marketplace series – by Laura Antoniou.
Dr. Julie Voss
BDSM Therapist
1-866-513-0615
http://www.hotphonesextherapy.com/julie.html
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Dear Elaine,
I am a 22 year old man who is questioning his sexuality. All my life I have been different from other men, I have hung around women more then men my own age. The thing that makes this strange is I do not find these or any women sexually attractive. I have been with one woman but it only lasted 5 minutes because as soon as we got started I could not keep my erection.
I have recently been more sexually attracted to men then women. I am not sure how to find out if I am normal. I think I may be gay. In the town which I live people have been hurt due to their sexual preference and I am afraid if people find out then the same thing may happen to me. Is there anyway I can “come out of the closet” without risking injury or hurting my family?
Please help!
Sexually Confused.
Dear Sexually Confused,
Being gay is a normal thing for some people. I know a lot of men and women who prefer the same sex relationships. As for how to tell your family and friends, that is tough. The best option would be completely open but do it in a place where the person you are telling will be comfortable. The last thing you want to do is take your mom out to a crowded restaurant for lunch and break the news to her.
When you are open and honest the chances of being accepted are greater. The society we live in is not very open to change, so it will be difficult for you at first but once everyone realizes your sexual preference does not change who you are as a person, they will still love and accept you as you are.
Be honest and truthful not only to those around you but also to yourself, and good luck.
Elaine
866-514-4715
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Dear Elaine,
I am a 52 year old married man. I have been calling phone sex companies everyday for 15 years now. My wife just doesn’t seem to be sexually interested in me like she once was, so I have turned to the beauties of phone sex to pleasure me. I can not stop calling I have tried and tried for over a year now. I make it a day or so then fall back into my normal routine.
I always call from work, since my wife stays at home all day. When I get alone in my office is when I make the call. I feel guilty when I call and release myself with the help of a phone sex operator, and yet I love to release so much that I can’t stop. Is this wrong? I mean is calling a phone sex service instead of turning to my wife wrong to do? Please help.
Addicted
Dear Addicted,
Thank you for your question. I think calling phone sex services everyday for 15 years is a bit extreme. However, an addiction is an addiction and I will give you a few pointers on how to over come your addiction, but just remember you have to make the final decision to stop calling.
Pointer number 1 – You should not try going at this alone, get a buddy someone you trust enough to tell your problem to. If you do not have one give me a call I will be your support person. Your support person will be responsible for keeping you on track.
Pointer number 2 – When you feel the urge to make a call do something productive at work, type out an email, write your wife a letter telling her how much you love her, go for a walk around your office. Just do something other then sit at your desk staring at your phone.
You need to know this will take some time to over come but if you take one day at a time you will be able to overcome your phone sex addiction. Good luck.
Elaine
866-514-4715
http://www.hotphonesextherapy.com/elaine.html
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